Feb 12, 2009

So for anonymous, we first get a set of 1 sheet papers, and they have on them (I should mention, this 1 page basic sheet is filled out by the NEDC, based on the bigger sheet):

* 2pn, multi, blasts, & # of them
* donor #
* state of residence
two columns for husband/wife
if one is a donor, husband or wife is crossed out and it's labeled donor oocyte or donor sperm etc.
* age
* race
* height
* weight
* blood type
* eye color
* hair color
* hair type (straight/wave etc)
* skin tone (fair/medium/dark)
* body build (small/medium/large)
* college graduate? field of work (like environmental engineer, stay at home mom)
* ethnic background


We're told to pick a main couple, and enough back-ups to get us 6 embryos (roughly). But there's a couple rules with that. If there's more than 6 embryos, you don't need a back-up. Like stage must = like stage. So 2pn = 2pn, blast = blast. Only exception, is a 2pn is allowed a multi-cell back-up. I'm guessing they may culture the 2pn's to multis, but I need to ask that yet. But no other exception to the match is allowed.

You then can call with a couple you want to look at a little closer. Then you get the full sheets. I should say, I think we had 13 couples to look through in December. And we asked for info originally about 3 of them.

The big sheet is what the embryo donors fill out. It's sent with the same first small short page in front, so we can see who they were again (which donor #, etc). :)
Has first husband, then wife, with this info:
physical characteristics
height
weight
race (circle all that apply) and gives an "other" blank to fill in too
family ethnicity (circle all that apply) (also gives the "other" with a blank)
drug allergies
are you a twin? Identical, fraternal?
hands: right handed, left handed, ambidextrous
Hair:
color at birth
present color
shade
texture
body (that was all for hair)
Eye color
complexion
body build
Medical History
acne
bleeding tendency or problem
thyroid disease
prostrate disease
diabetes
high blood pressure
heart problems
hepatitis
mitral valve prolapse
kidney disease
liver disease
urinary tract infections
blood clots in legs or lungs
psychological or emotional problems
depression
victim of sexual abuse
consume more than 7 alcoholic drinks/week
If you answered "YES" to any of the questions, please explain details
Have you ever been hospitalized in the past?
if yes: date/reason
Please list all previous surgical procedures
date/type of surgery/complications
Genetic/family history
Do any members of your immediate family or extended family (aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces, or grandparents) have:
Down's syndrome
tay sach
thalassemia
schizophrenia
huntington's disease
hemophilia
muscular dystrophy
neurofibromatosis
von recklinghausen's disease
fragile x syndrome
congenital heart disease
birth defects
alzheimer's
mental illness
depression
diabetes
arthritis
cystic fibrosis
marfan's syndrome
hereditary anemia
sickle cell anemia
mental retardation
heart attack before age 50
chromosomal abnormalies
Please list type of relationship to each of the above
Education:
highest educational degree obtained
middle school, high school, colege, graduate school, post graduate school
major
occupation
hobbies & interests
personal favorites
color
food
music/band/singer
movie
song
hobbies
athletic enjoyments
talents
sports played
if yes what sports
musical instrument played
if yes what instruments
artistic talents: painting, drawing, sculpting, carving, singing, songwriting, dancing, writing, acting, other:

WIFE
same as above.




So then you go over that info and verify that you're still ok :D

Then you call back and say, I'd like donor # ####
and if you need a back-up to get the 6 embryos minimum, then you say, and I'd like donor # #### for the back-up.






On rare occasions, there are anonymous donors who have final say. They view our profile & pictures. That happened to us, and why we were not matched with our first choice in December.




And for open:
The open placers for adoption first view the profiles of the adoptive couples, along with their pictures. It's a brief page and a half about us (something like font 10, no returns, solid page and a half.). Then hmm I think 3 pictures. And then proceed as mentioned in previous posting about how open works.