Friday, November 20, 2009

October 9, 2008 - mock transfer

I think I will have to later find a way to go in and put everything in order. :)

In the meantime, I'm just copying posts over I don't wish to lose.



Hello and thank you to all for praying :D

What a trip!

We left right after 1st service on Sunday. We drove straight from the church. I drove for several hours, then we switched off and Joerg drove for several hours. We finally decided to stop about 1/2 way, just into Indiana. Stayed at Days Inn, and we won't stop there again. Wow needed repairs! Got going and drove another 8-9 hours on Monday, arriving in the evening at our hotel. We test drove the way to the clinic, and had dinner. Then came back to the hotel. It was also a Days Inn and we will never stay there again either. We won't go into how unsanitary we both felt the hotel was . . . but I will say I used to work in a hotel, and well, in all the hotels I've EVER stayed in . . . gotta be the worst. Oh well, just know where we won't stay when we go back for the transfer! :D

Went to the NEDC on Tuesday morning. Was wonderful! Everyone is so friendly! Even the regular clients of the clinic! (They're apparently also a regular RE's office operating out of the same office. So they have the non-profit NEDC & the clinic's private practice there). One of the gals waiting in the lobby was talking about how Dr. K really values the life of all the embryos and makes you sign something to the effect of not discarding or destroying embryos! The paperwork we took with us says they'll pray with us anytime we ask! Wow! :D

So the mock went well, or at least, as well as I expected it to go. My uterus is tipped, more so than most, so yup they first used the regular thing to test, then they went back and decided to try with the bent one too, because they figured more than likely they'd need to use the bent tube thing. bendable? Anyway, it all went well. Except . . . they could not find my ovaries. Doesn't matter how many times I warn people my ovaries are high, they just invariably don't like to believe me. So he said it wasn't really necessary to find them, because if there was a big cyst it would show up. Hmm. Anyway, he did draw an E2 level. I'm on Estrace 3x a day and now they added prometrium, 2x a day for 5 days together with the Estrace. Then I stop it and when AF comes I go on Seasonal bcp's (my af doesn't come unless it's helped anyway) and then I just keep steady on that, ignoring the "sugar pills" as they do not want me to have af so they can schedule things.

I'll be going back sometime in January for my transfer. We did end up going anonymous. We flat out told him that we were completely agreeable to open adoptions right up until they changed the fee schedule for open adoptions on us after we were already in the program. He said he understood with the economy. The coordinators who we spoke with later said they were keeping "tallys" of the # who were saying they were deterred by the additional fees for open adoptions. So 4-6 weeks before the appointment (which we don't have yet, we get it after we chose our embies) we get the profiles to look through. First they send a fax with basic info, then when we chose our matches (we chose at least 1 back-up, and at least 5 embryos) they send us the complete profile (medical etc, but anonymous info). If ever there is a medical emergency, we contact the NEDC and they will contact the families involved. Oh, so we do genetic testing if they do have to use the back-up and the original choices together, to be sure which family we're together with. BTW, this is Dr. K: [url="http://www.baby4me.net/director.shtml"]http://www.baby4me.net/director.shtml[/url]

So when we do the meds, it will be Lupron, Estrace, PIO (I'm to look up what oil it was I had the reaction to, so they can order a different oil), um. . . . some antibiotic, I think albuterol?, and I think um. . . I should really look these last ones up! Starts with a V I think, a painkiller, and 3 ibuprofin. I'll look up those last ones to be clear what they were a little later. I have the prescription to send in. He wants me back on Metformin to prevent miscarriage.

They went over success rates with FET. He said 42% at their clinic with the EA. He also went over things like preterm labor is common with FET's in general, even with singletons, which surprised me. I always thought that fact came from the multiples, so was surprised they find it to be so common with singletons too! And he wants me to walk 1 hour every day because it's really healthy and helps with hormone levels etc. And the paperwork they gave us to read over, includes that we are to have horizontal fellowship the night before the transfer. Something about it actually helps with transfer & implantation! Of course, then we have to abstain, I think it was for a week?

So we were at the clinic for something like 9 to 12, then grabbed a 6" sub at Subway, and headed back for home. Drove again about 8-9 hours each day. Drove slightly different on the way home. But spent the night at a Motel 6 on the way back. Seemed to be brand new. Unfortunately, we were next to a smoking room, and for whatever reason, if they smoked, it kinda seeped into our room too. Really bad for allergies and esp. for Joerg's asthma. Oh well. It was clean! And if we stay there again,, we'll just be sure to ask for a non-smoking room on the other side of the building from the smoking rooms! Ugh. :) We made it back home last night!

The drive was beautiful! The leaves in TN are all turning different colors of reds and oranges and yellows! Just breathtaking! I mean, they're turning in MN, and then you drive through corn fields and green trees, then suddenly you get mountains and color again! Just beautiful! We drove through some rain and some sunshine too.

Oh, the matches have to be the same level, so 1 cell, 6-8 cell, or blastocyst. So if we get different donors, they have to be the same level. And then, if they do have to go into our 2nd match (say they don't have enough to transfer because first match has 2 and the one didn't survive the thaw) then they require genetic testing to determine who the match is, in case it's needed later, and so we can be sure of the medical background.

Ok, so my prescription is for: Leuprolide, Estrace, Progesterone in oil (currently cottonseed, but I need to look which I had the reaction to yet), Valium, Seasonale.

Then we also have: Doxycycline, Advil, & Albuterol pills for transfer. Hmm. I see I continue the Estrace after the transfer, in addition to the PIO shots.

Oh! So at the Knoxville location, they do transfers every other month, and mock cycles every other month. And the reason we don't have a specific date yet is because they allow those patients who had a failed transfer first chance at dates.

Love,
Julie

Embryo Adoption Links

I'll have to come back and edit this later. I'm deleting posts from the BCS forums, and I don't want to lose this.

None of the following are in any particular order of importance (just alphabetical (except the news/info!) ;) ). They're all great information and should be looked into before choosing a personal direction:

[size=150]Education/online chats with placers, adoptors, social workers, lawyers, doctors, etc:[/size]
CEDA Education: [url]http://www.cedaeducation.org/home.html[/url]

Embryo Adoption Awareness Campaign: [url]http://www.embryoadoption.org/[/url]

All Things Embryo from Dreaming of Conceiving: [url]http://dreamingofconceiving.com/EMBRYO.aspx[/url]

[size=150]Agencies/Services:[/size]
The Abraham Center of Life, LLC (not full service. They help locate services.) [url]http://www.theabrahamcenteroflife.com/embryodonation.html[/url]

Bethany Christian Services Embryo Adoption In House Program: [url]http://www.bethany.org/A55798/bethanyWWW.nsf/0/1CA188422535A9E8852572750070B241[/url]

Cooper Center Donor Embryo Program: [url]http://www.ccivf.com/embryo_program.html[/url]

Embryos Alive: [url]http://www.embryosalive.com/[/url]

Jacksonville Center for Reproductive Medicine: [url]http://jcrm.org/page.php?page=Services%20Info&id=3[/url]

Miracles Waiting: [url]http://miracleswaiting.org/membersonly3/modules/tinycontent/?id=1[/url]

National Embryo Donation Center (NEDC) (aka National Embryo Adoption Center) [url]http://www.embryodonation.org/index.html[/url]

Nightlight Christian Adoptions (Snowflakes): [url]http://www.nightlight.org/snowflakeadoption.htm[/url]

Prenatal Adoption: [url]http://prenataladoption.com/[/url]

Reprotech: [url]http://www.reprot.com/PApages/donor.html[/url]

You can also find out if your local reproductive endocrinologist has a program (SEVERAL DO!).

Finding a donor clinic:

To find a clinic in your area that handles Donor Embryos, click here: [url]http://www.sart.org/find_frm.html[/url] and enter your zipcode. Click on a clinic name and then click to view their ART data report. At the bottom of the report, it will tell you if they work with Donor Embryos or not. Of these clinics, some have their own in-house supply of Embryos and some require that you locate your own elsewhere and then have them shipped to the clinic. Contact each clinic for details on which options they offer.

Sometimes clinics will work with donor embryos, even if they don't have an in-house program. So you can still contact clinics in that list and double check. A quick phone call is worth a lot. :)

In addition, please be sure to ask who they use for Cryogenic storage etc. Many clinics who do not have a program, refer their clients to the cryogenics places, as many cryogenics places DO have their own donor embryo programs.

[size=150]News/Stories/Informational:[/size]
Embryo Adoption or Embryo Donation?: The Distinction and Its Implications: [url]http://www.cbhd.org/resources/reproductive/cunningham_2003-04-17.htm[/url]

EMBRYO ADOPTION: Saving lives and building families: [url]http://www.christianexaminer.com/Articles/Articles%20Jun06/Art_Jun06_20.html[/url]

Seeing Them for What They Are: [url]http://www2.focusonthefamily.com/focusmagazine/sohl/a000000155.cfm[/url]

Adoption, not Donation: [url]http://www.preconception.com/articles/alternative-family-building/adoption-not-donation-1321/[/url]

For the Least of These: [url]http://www2.focusonthefamily.com/focusmagazine/sohl/a000000110.cfm[/url]

Embryo Adoption I-II: [url]http://resources.family.org/product/cd265.do?code=ol03xrdrc[/url]

Should Fertilized Eggs Have Rights? [url]http://www.time.com/time/nation/article/0,8599,1686729,00.html[/url]

Snowflake Kids: What Should We Do With Frozen Embryos? [url]http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1428794/posts[/url]

Frozen Embryo's are a Human Life [url]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-Vp7NAsS02Y[/url]

Choosing Embryo Adoption [url]http://www.perspectivespress.com/carembryo.html[/url]

Resolve: Embryo Donation - A Family Building Option
An Online Guide for Potential Recipients of Donated Embryos [url]http://www.resolve.org/site/PageServer?pagename=lrn_wamo_pr[/url]

Resolve: Embryo Donation - A Family Building Option
An Online Guide for Potential Embryo Donors [url]http://www.resolve.org/site/PageServer?pagename=lrn_wamo_pd[/url]


[size=150]Books[/size]
Before You Were Born...Our Wish For A Baby (The Story of Embryo Donation) - by Janice Grimes

Embryo Donation and Embryo Adoption: Loving Choices for Christians - by John D. Van Regenmorter, Slyvia A. Van Regenmorter

Hope & Will Have a Baby: The Gift of Embryo Donation - by Iréné Celcer

A Blessing from Above (Little Golden Book) by Patti Henderson (Author), Elizabeth Edge (Illustrator)


[size=150]Personal Stories![/size]
Lancaster embryo adoption story [url]http://www.truveo.com/Lancaster-embryo-adoption-story/id/1451788909[/url]

Twins adopted as embryos [url]http://www.baptistpress.org/bpnews.asp?id=25943[/url]

EMBRYO ADOPTION: Saving lives and building families [url]http://www.bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?ID=23365[/url]

EMBRYO ADOPTION: Unique process was answer to three years of infertility for Houston, Texas couple [url]http://www.bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?ID=23366[/url]

EMBRYO ADOPTION: Birth of twins, formerly frozen embryos, gives young couple unique outlook on stem cell debate [url]http://www.bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?ID=23372[/url]

EMBRYO ADOPTION: 'It's the cure for infertility,' mother says after giving birth to 2 children through embryo adoption [url]http://www.bpnews.net/bpnews.asp?ID=23384[/url]

For This Child I Prayed [url]http://www.bethany.org/A55798/bethanyWWW.nsf/c79edbd86c517a1d852569c800702556/98d1255a5f22fdbe85257289006fa5f7?OpenDocument[/url]

Goodness of God [url]http://www.bethany.org/A55798/bethanyWWW.nsf/c79edbd86c517a1d852569c800702556/b3743aca1e62933d85257289006f62cf?OpenDocument[/url]


[size=150]Other Embryo Adoption Message Boards/Support:[/size]
Bethany Christian Services: [url]http://discussion.bethany.org/index.php[/url]

Cafe Mom: [url]http://www.cafemom.com/[/url]

Child of My Heart: [url]http://s1.zetaboards.com/Child_Of_My_Heart/index/[/url]

Hannah's Prayer: [url]http://hannahsprayer.org/board/index.php?act=idx[/url]
Note: Hannah's Prayer is a private forum. Joining is free. You have to post an intro, and then a total of 10 posts before you see all the forums, including the very active Embryo Adoption forum.

Stepping Stones: [url]http://stepforums.bethany.org/index.php?sid=def9240254aa88e57ca0c50f2bccc435[/url]


[size=150]Canada[/size]
Frozen dreams [url]http://www.guardian.co.uk/society/2003/nov/16/health.genetics[/url]

Embryo adoption solves dilemma for Cdn couple [url]http://www.ctv.ca/servlet/ArticleNews/story/CTVNews/20020831/embryo_adoption_020831/[/url]

Embryo-adoption program to offer couples last chance: [url]http://www.theglobeandmail.com/servlet/RTGAMArticleHTMLTemplate?tf=tgam/realtime/fullstory_print.html&cf=tgam/realtime/config-neutral&articleDate=20020304&slug=wxembry&date=20020304&archive=RTGAM&site=Front[/url]

Another new agency!

[url]http://www.adoptionsfromtheheart.org/heartbeats/index.html[/url]

The program is called Heartbeats, and it is through Adoptions from the Heart.

Another new agency! This one is run by a church! :)

[url]http://adoptanembryo.net/[/url]

Embryo Adoption Services of Cedar Park

Thursday, September 17, 2009

Housing

Well, we might be selling our townhome and building a single family home again. I'm very excited about this. Guess we'll know more for sure in a couple weeks when we sit down with the builder.

James - Bible Study

Well, I have been asked to help co-facilitate a small group Bible study. It starts as a large group, and we'll have about 10 women in our small group together. It will be fun! We're doing the Nav Press book (if I remember right). I've completed the first few chapters, and it's a wonderful study! It is about growing in Christ, going through trials, and asking God for wisdom, and DOING. You cannot just read the Bible. You have to act upon what you've read too. You must live out your life in Christ, not just read about it.

So I'm excited to learn more about living out the Word too.

And in ties in nicely with what we're doing at the church the next 7 weeks too. We're going to be studying living inside out. Allowing Christ to work through us, and for us to show Christ to those around us. Also going to be very interesting! :)

The Duggars

Well the Duggars are expecting #19, and I'm very happy for them! When I heard they were expecting, I also heard they had experienced miscarriage long ago. So I went and read their blog: http://www.duggarfamily.com/aboutus.html

Jim Bob & Michelle Duggar married July 21st, 1984. At that time, they chose to use the birth control pill. They thought, “We don’t want children right now. We can’t afford them. We want children in our timing, when we’re ready.” Four years later they decided to have their first child. Then, Michelle went back on the pill, but she conceived and had a miscarriage. At that point they talked with a Christian medical doctor and read the fine print in the contraceptives package. They found that while taking the pill you can get pregnant and then miscarry. They were grieved! They were Christians! They were pro-life! They realized that their selfish actions had taken the life of their child. They prayed and asked God to forgive them, and to teach them to love children like He loves children. They asked God to bless them with as many children as He saw fit in His timing. Right after that Michelle got pregnant with twins! To date they have been blessed with 17 children, (10 boys and 7 girls) Joshua (& wife Anna), Jana & John-David (twins), Jill, Jessa, Jinger, Joseph, Josiah, Joy-Anna, Jedidiah & Jeremiah (twins), Jason, James, Justin, Jackson, Johannah, Jennifer (and #18 due in January 2009!).


Of course they need to update that a baby was born, and they're expecting again. :) But we've been on birth control because of the embryo adoption. So I was discussing this with Joerg, and we prayed about it, and stopped the birth control. It is a while (May) before we will do another embryo adoption cycle. So we're seeing what God has in store for us. :) Very exciting!

Wednesday, July 22, 2009

This, that, and the other.

We were shown last week to another potential expectant mom, but she turned us down. But we have another showing on the 28th.

TV Free month is going well. The basement is 3/4 organized! It will soon be done. Then we will move on to organizing the garage. Now that will be a task! :)

We finally got going on the gym. We went Monday for an upper body work-out. And we went back this morning for a lower body workout. So every other day, and every other workout.

I've been enjoying walking on Monday mornings with a group of women from church. But I need to get more aerobics in. So I will. :)

Not too much going on. Just lots of busy work organizing and cleaning the house. It's a really nice feeling to get that done.

The no TV month has it very peaceful around the house. We aren't really listening to the radio much either. But we do listen in the evenings, to:

"Vine & Branches" (You can also listen online) http://www.rabbiyeshua.com/webstore/vine&branches/index.html

Followed by

"Walk in the Word" http://www.kkms.com/ministryaudio/walk_in_the_word/

That has been really enjoyable and informative too.

So all in all, things are looking pretty good right now. :)

Love,
Julie

Sunday, July 12, 2009

TV Free Month

Ok, so we're going "TV FREE" for one month. With the exception of maybe am/pm news (so we can keep up to date with weather/storms etc.)

Anyhoo, as part of that, we're also cutting down on internet time as well. So I will be on here a lot less. As if I've posted a lot lately huh? :)

All this is part of our effort to break our little rut, get into better habits (walking, cleaning up big areas like garage, Bible study, talking time, reading books, I think you get the idea :) ).

So it's for a good purpose. :)

I remember a lecture I went to through Hearts at Home, where they said it's good to "fast" from TV or Internet for a month at a time here and there and just reconnect with God and stop any bad habits. Oh You want me to remember who that lecturer was too, don't you! Umm . . .

YES! I found it! It's Susie Larson: http://www.heartshoppe.com/6096.html


"Balance That Works When Life Doesn't"

For many Christian women, life seems out of control. The conflicting demands and various pulls on their time seem irreconcilable. Prepare healthy meals, exercise, rest, study and pray, serve, keep the household running, and even manage a career . . How can a woman possibly balance all the demands of a twenty-first century Christian lifestyle? Learn how to make choices that create a natural flow and rhythm that you can live with as you develop physical and spiritual health.


Anyway, I'll be praying for you all, and please pray that we have a truly blessed time. :)

Love,
Julie